When You Can’t Survive on Love Alone
Once you’ve been single a while, you start to re-evaluate that list of qualities needed in a mate. The list could be in your head, written in a journal, on a cocktail napkin, stuffed into a hope chest or a drawer. Wherever it resides, it probably has gone through many alterations–changing as you change and as you learn from past mistakes.
There are two areas, though, on which I will stand firm.
1. I decided a while back that I want to be with someone passionate about art, whether it be music, writing, painting, theater, or some other creative medium. This is key to understanding my own obsessions.
2. Speaking of… I also decided I need someone who cares about wine or at least is willing to learn. Rather important and more so every day.
Now, I don’t expect to find a relationship like Dorothy Gaiter and John Brecher have. They met in Miami as reporters to find instant attraction to each other and wine, so that they now co-author the highly-regarded “Tastings” in the Wall Street Journal as well as books, such as Love By the Glass . Over 25 years of love and wine.
While that would be too much to ask for, I do hope to find a person who can put up with my need to plan a meal around the wine, who will be patient as I beg to go winetasting yet again, who will not be embarrassed by four different glasses of wine in front of my plate at the Christmas party. (So I can experiment with pairings, not to get drunk, readers)
That someone will suffer my tirades about the injustices of reviewers, my fervor over the perfect Pinot Noir, my melancholy at not being able to buy the wine on my wish list. Of course, there’s always the possibility that love for me would be reason enough to shower me with bottles. (Side note: Another aspect of the Wine Enthusiast survey asked how readers became interested in wine. Heidi McLain answered, “I thought it would be a good way to meet a rich man to marry.” Keep hoping, sister!)
Then again, the first wine Dorothy and John had together was Cold Duck, so there’s room for growth in every relationship.
wine and love, relationships, Dorothy Gaiter, John Brecher
….Farley Walker
December 21st, 2006 at 2:27 pm
Cute post! Even when you find one who loves wine (or rather, you make him love wine cause he no alcohol preference when you met him!) he may still sometimes roll his eyes at you when you beg to go wine-tasting! Or ask him to describe flavors in the wine, or give you only wine-related gifts…..Though I did manage to get him to go along with the idea of Sonoma for 7 days of our honeymoon
January 31st, 2007 at 8:16 am
[...] That’s why Dorothy Gaiter and John Brecher started Open That Bottle Night: to give you a reason to open a special bottle. Thereby, instead of letting birthdays and anniversaries pass without corks being removed, the occasion becomes the opening of the bottle. It can include a special someone and an intricate meal, but the focus, the star, is the wine. And the memories you’ll make. [...]